Us and them
Over the last many years, I have had some opportunities to travel to far away lands. Though I have only been to a few countries and had fairly short stays, it was eye opening in many ways. In every conversation, interaction, or moment of solitude on a snow clad peak, I would constantly reflect on how much more cultures can grow stronger by increased exposure to a different way of life. As the Indian Diaspora expands into every nook and corner of the world, (yes I mean it – I have seen Indians in the least expected places!), all of us would notice a few changes in the world around us and how we respond. Even if you have never stepped outside the shores, you would find yourself reacting to people in your family such as a Gelf settled engineer, the IT geek from South who propagates consumption of Thayir Saadham in a Tex- Mex place, or the Punjabi dhaba owner in Cannedda or UK. Whether you like and accept some of the changes or not, you cannot ignore the fact that it influences you.
I guess some of my plans worked well in life, and I was lucky enough to lead a “best of both worlds” life. I have seen India grow, change and evolve significantly and I have been privileged to have been at the core of this fascinating part our history. I feel a lot of 2nd generation Indians, NRIs, and people who moved out a while back for studies or work, have missed being a part of this. As a result, a large section of these people tend to be fairly surprised at the “development and change”, when they visit folks and friends back home. On the other extreme, we have people who have rarely travelled abroad, which is not a sin at all, but are blind to the country’s problems and live in a false sense of a superior culture, and strongly believe that “we are like this only”. I guess I can take a middle path and comment on where we can change for the better, where we should not change, and where we should lead the way.
So the narrative I attempt to build, and get your views on, is a personalized account, in 3 parts on:
- What are the changes in society, I would wish India (US) embraces from other countries (THEM – refers to the few parts of US, Europe, Far East that I have visited, could be extrapolated to denote the “developed world”)
- Where we should stop aping them, and pursue what we have been doing all along instead, and
- What are the areas, where we can lead the way
For the sake of a focused discussion, I wanted to restrict the number of I topics to specific number. I went for the number eight – for no random reason. I want to stress again that this is highly personalized, and I am not expecting everybody to agree with my list. There are some topics I care about, and there are some that I don’t care so much about. For example, I do not have a very strong personal feeling or opinion on the topic of homosexuality in India. I have nothing against homosexuals, and I think its okay, but I would not be holding up a banner and marching for gay rights either. But if there is a need to make a protest march on some of the topics below, then I would gladly do so!
If you are reading this, chances are that I sent you this link, and hence I think you can contribute from your experiences. I am fairly curious to find out what people’s opinion is on the topics I listed, and what the #1 topic you personally feel should be added.
So after a really long introduction, let’s get right to the core of the blog:
- Have a life beyond the office cubicle, the laptop, and the blackberries
- Dress smart
- Take a vacation
- Public display of affection (PDA)
- Know your country / history
- If there are some rules & processes, follow them, or don’t bother having them in the first place
- Can we have some genuinely funny TV show please?
- KISS – Keep it short and sweet!
- Show creativity in “creative” fields (cinemas, literature, and music) and stop ripping off!
I’ll soon publish detailed views on each of the topics above.